Blogging Struggles: Commenting Reciprocity and Time Management

Hi everyone! As the title is pretty self-explanatory, I just wanted to give you guys an update; about what’s been going on in my life and why I haven’t been around much the blogosphere.  First, I want to deeply apologize for that. I know I haven’t been blog hopping at all or even read other posts lately.  I have always built a great relationship and bond with you guys and I feel I can trust you and sharing some events of my life. The month of August has been a crazy roller coaster and here are some reasons why.

1.My Mom Got Diagnosed with Breast Cancer

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She keeps smiling and I find it so brave ❤

Yup, there’s no nice way to say it and I’ve always been the kind of girl who goes straight to the point so here you go. It sucks. The news disturb everyone around us and mostly her. She’s at stage II so the earlier we get the surgery done to remove the tumour, the better it is. I recognize there are some great hopes and breast cancer is the cancer with the most chances of survival so pray for her y’all ❤ She needs all the support she can have. When the news got announced, my first instinct was: I have to spend more time with her.  And that’s what I’ve been doing.

2. I Got Sick Pretty Bad

I think event 1 and event 2 are correlated. Just after the news of my mom’s disease, my own body reacted weirdly. First, I got nausea and a few days later I threw up. I couldn’t eat anything, I was always bloating and feeling full (which is my worst nightmare because I love to eat). It comes to the point where I have to shut down my own food blog because the sight of food made me sick.  I didn’t want to do anything, I took some time off work, I couldn’t even read and blog my head was always spinning and as if a hammer was banging on it every time I even open a screen. I’m way better now.

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3. I got some time on my own to do some serious introspection

The fact that I couldn’t do anything made me have all the time in the world to focus on myself. Without any distractions. I realized a couple of things:

a) I really love blogging and reading. When I couldn’t do either of them for almost a month, my heart aches for a few pages or even a few words with you guys. I was thinking about bookish ideas and posts all day and night. That’s why in the middle of the month,  I couldn’t help but post even if it hurts LOL

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b) As I spent more time with my mom, I wanted to help her. In that moment, I was going to make one of the most important decisions of my life.

4. Attending Med School

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My family organized a cute celebration at home when I announced the news haha 🙂

I passed the interview and at first, I wanted to decline it. Because I loved my job, I got a permanent position and I had a great salary. Why waste my years in medicine? But then, it hits me. It I don’t take this opportunity to at least try and help my Mom or even future Moms and children with cancer, I will regret it for the rest of my life. This job can wait. But not Medicine. Maybe it won’t work out, maybe I’ll drop out, but I wanted to try. So while I was really reluctant to go back to school, I decided to take this chance. So yeah that’s why I’ve been off the radar lately ! I started medschool in middle of August(yep super early) and I already have my first exam this Friday.

And these events explain..

Why I Suck At Commenting and Finding the time to do everything I used to.

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Do not worry, I already sorted out a draft schedule of posting and back to blog hopping little by little. And with trials and errors, I hope I will find a way to make it work. Meanwhile, if any of you have any tips on how you can keep commenting while balancing life-work and how you guys manage blogging at all, please let me know ❤

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29 comments

  • Doctor Tran?
    Honestly, if that is your goal and your mom, make blogging your absolute last thing. Seriously, let it fall by the wayside if needed. Because while you might feel guilty for maybe a month, heck I’ll be generous and say 2 months, if you drop all your online “friends” (really, we’re acquaintances, not friends), your Mom and your medical goals are things that will stick with you for the rest of your life. Blogging is a fun hobby. That is it. Don’t let it become bigger than it actually is.

    Sorry for the pontificating there and I know I’ve banged this drum before, but Real Life trumps Blog Life every single time. It does feel sucky for a time but concentrate on what is important. The important things can be years long sometime.

    So be encouraged. Having to make these decision will make you a better person…

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  • I’m going to give you this advice: don’t comment. Don’t blog…it really doesn’t work when there is too much stuff going on in your life. A couple of months back I made the decision to go on a hiatus. It was hard, and it felt as if I was leaving part of myself behind. But….it was also necessary. As much as I love blogging, I could not have kept up with everything and in the end I knew that if I had not made that decision, I might have stopped blogging altogether. In the end it gave a lot of relief, as hard as it was.
    I’m really, really sorry about your mum. I hope with all my heart that she will get the best treatment and that she will make a full recovery. But really, that is why it is even more important for you to be with her right now. Blogging is fun, and it’s an amazing hobby. I have met all kinds of amazing people because of it, and even made some wonderful friends such as yourself. But…we will understand when you are not here right now. Give yourself some time, and come back when things are going better😊
    I think the decisison you made is absolutely amazing, and something you should be incredibly proud of. I know I am.
    I wish you and your mother and of course Lashaan too all the best. Please take care, and do not worry about us. You have already enough on your mind 😊

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  • Giving you hugs and prayers for you and your mom’s health… And of course, family and your own personal interests comes first rather than blogging and blog hopping! So don’t worry about us, and just open WordPress only when you have the free time. Hope you don’t feel too pressured to comment back to every single one of our comments, and hope everything gets better soon ❤

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  • Congratulations on getting into Med school. That’s an incredible achievement. I understand how hard it can be to find that life/blogging balance. I still struggle with that balance. However, I do think it’s important that when life throws you curve balls you take care of yourself before anything else, even if it means stepping away from the blog for a while. Sending all positive vibes to you and your mum. ❤

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  • I’m sending you and your family a lot of love and support ❤ ❤ ❤ Congratulations on getting into Med school, this is amazing, I am so so, so proud of you. ❤ It's hard to keep up with blogging and everything else when life changes just like that – like others above me in the comments said, what matters the most is to take care of yourself and your family first ❤ ❤ As for blogging management in between work and life, I always try to dedicate a bit of time every day for some blog hopping, answering comments or something, even if it's just a couple of minutes, it makes me feel productive haha, but it all depends on what you're feeling – don't force yourself either! ❤ Sending you love! ❤ ❤

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  • You don’t need to apologize for not being around at all. You’ve had several major things going on. I’m happy that you go into school, sad about your mom and other things. I hope things are going well. We’ll be here when you’re ready.

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  • That’s a lot you have going on. No need to sweat not being able to post and comment. Do what you can when you can.
    I wish your mom all the best for her health and same to you with med school.

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  • I don’t know how serious your mother’s breast cancer is, but I hope she survives it. I hope she recovers. Either way, good luck in medical school.

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  • Trang!!! Much love and strength to you, your mom and family. Cancer is horrible and I hope everything works out well and she recovers!
    take care! ❤

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  • It’s great that you got into medical school. Best of luck with your studies. And I hope everything with your mum’s health goes okay, and that she recovers fully.

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  • First of all, I’m so sorry to hear about your mother and I’m sending all my prayers for your mom ❤ Congrats on getting to med school though, it's a great place and it will all be worth it in the end ❤ I think #2 might have a correlation to #1, as I experienced it everytime I got too anxious or stressed. I still struggle with balancing blogging and my study, but I guess I'm learning to let go my blog little by little, as in, it's okay to spend the time away from it ❤

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  • Oh wow Trang so much. Prayers to your mom and family. I know how scary it is to watch a loved one battle breast cancer. The odds are in her favour thankfully and I wish her the very best care and spirits. Congrats on the major decision to enrol in med school. May your path bring you joy and fulfilment.

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  • That sounds like a whole lot is going on. I hope you’re doing okay and that your mom’s doing fine as well. Or as fine as can be! I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed everything turns out alright.
    It’s weird how, when one thing goes wrong, it seems like a whole lot of other things follow. At least it’s what I’ve noticed as well. Let’s hope this is the end of it for you and it only gets better from here on out.

    Good luck on your education! 🙂

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  • I hope everything gets better for you!! Sometimes things just get busy and crazy all at the same time. I hope your mom is doing ok, and congrats on the medicine! I understand it’s tough to give up something that’s sturdy and full time, for something that may pay off later!! Such is my life at the moment, as well!!

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  • Take care of your mom first..and your health. Then med school, talk to your professors, tell them what you are going through. Most of them will understand and help you out. Thirdly, blogging is nice when you have time and mind space, but on the whole compared to real life, well, nothing compares to real life however difficult it is.
    The surgery part is the first step. The chemo and radio is where your mom will require you to boost her up. Allopathy has limited drugs to alleviate the after effects of chemo. But naturopathy helps to minimise the symptoms. Lots of fresh fruits, the anti oxidants will limit the symptoms.
    Good luck on your exams
    Well I do remember my first exam in medicine in anatomy, it went pretty okay, so yours will also. Good luck. Let me know if I can help you further

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  • Prayers and love to you and your mom. You have put yourself and her first as it should be. If you decide to come back and blog later, we’ll be here waiting. If not we understand. Don’t add more stress to your life. Congrats on med school. Hugs! ❤️❤️

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  • Hugs! ❤ Sending so much love and hopes for the best for your family and you right now. ❤
    I think it's amazing that your love for your mom and passion to help her has led you to take action and go to med school. Best of luck with everything! 🙂

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  • I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I hope all goes well with the surgery and she goes into remission. I’m glad to hear you are feeling better, and congrats! on med school. 🙂 This is the first time I am coming across your blog, and my have you had a lot going on. I pray you find some balance in there. 🙂

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